Should I feell disrespected? My husband and I was sitting down watching a movie and his ex-wife keep texting.?

I know his son who is 16 been having some issue. I feel like the problems should have been discussed between them and if she had other concern leave the issue until the next day. I have kids for my ex and he is not married but I know he have someoone he is dating but I would never phone or text him after 9 pm out of respect for him and that person. I feel that she know he is married but she have no respect for our relationship and I feel that my husband also disrespected me by not telling her can we talk tomorrow because I am spending some time with my wife. I feel like I do not disrepect my husband and I would like the same respect from him. I feel like if it was an emergency then it would have been fine but I feel like they are making the son issue about them rather than making it about the son. My husband move from Chicago to be with me so he claims he feel like it is because of him that their son is having issue. I do not feel that way because I know kids that grow up without ever knowing about a dad an they are ok. His son come and spend summer with us and he talk to him every day, so I think the problem that he is having lies within himself. I could be wrong. The son thinks he might be attracted to male rather than female and I sympatize with the situation, but when he talks to his son, his son told him something happen from kindergartner that made him clue in that he might be gay. I dont think he had any encounter with a male so I told my husband to get him to go see a theraphy to sort out his feelings and make sure he is not just going through an expiremental stage. I don't think his ex-wife is dating anyone so I think she does not have anyone to talk to but I feel that is on her, she should not be trying to use my husband she needs to find a friend or someone else to talk to.